Text|Sheep and sheep do not eat grass

Editor|Uncle Yu

The living Buddha Jigong, who sang "shoes, hats," and called out "dolls" for life, has almost been engraved into the memories of three generations.

But recently, the 92-year-old man mentioned in an interview that he had already moved into a nursing home.

This made netizens start to worry about his later years.

Is it really that the children are unfilial, which makes the old artists end up in a "dormant old age" as the rumors say?

Rutterances arise

As early this year, some media photographed Teacher You Benchang in a wheelchair and his wife Yang Huihua staying in a "Magnolia" elderly care apartment in Shunyi, Beijing.

In the picture, the two elders were slightly weak and were pushed by the staff throughout the whole process.

The video spreads so quickly that it is unimaginable, and at the same time, it has also attracted a lot of heated discussions among netizens.

Everyone began to speculate about the reason why Teacher You Benchang was staying.

"How great is it for an old artist to enjoy family happiness at home."

"Is it because the children are unwilling to take care of them, otherwise who would want to live in a nursing home?"

Another netizens brought out You Benchang because he had sold houses twice because of filming a drama.

Unexpectedly, this move was misinterpreted as "economic constraints and no one to support", and even led to the exaggerated rumors of "the family is a bare wall and the children are unfilial."

I thought the rumors stopped at the wise, but something even worse happened.

A few years ago, he was rushed to the hospital for an acute attack of COPD, and his condition was critically in critical condition and the doctor issued a notice of critical illness.

Teacher You Benchang finally defeated the disease with his tenacious vitality and optimistic attitude.

After recovering from a serious illness, he should have had a good rest. Who would have thought that during the 40th anniversary of the broadcast of "Jigong" held by CCTV in the first half of the year, he met Teacher You Benchang again.

In the program, he sat in a wheelchair throughout the whole process.

I should have been pleased with his rebirth after the disaster, but there were still scattered voices criticizing his children in the comments.

"At this time, shouldn't you be in bed and rest? Why are you still pushing it on the show?"

"The children are so unrespectful to the old man's body, and they still have to work at such an old age."

These remarks like sparks have quickly set off on the Internet. More and more netizens who don’t know the truth follow the trend and accused Teacher You Benchang of the children, and all kinds of unheard words are rampant.

At first, You Benchang, who did not care about these rumors, was also questioned by friends and relatives around him, and even some partners who had worked together also cast strange eyes.

The children are even more blameless and aggrieved.

In the end, Teacher You Benchang chose to stand up and clarify for the children.

I responded

On September 9, the Phoenix Video "Junpintan" program released an interview video with Teacher You Benchang.

In the interview, Teacher You Benchang was in good spirits. Facing the camera, he responded to the incident of moving into the nursing home with a smile.

He said in a firm and clear voice:

"Casting in a nursing home is the pursuit of dignity in the old age."

In just 12 words, it exploded on the Internet in an instant, making fans who have been paying attention to this matter breathe a sigh of relief.

Isn't this the best response to "children are unfilial"?

You Benchang further explained: As he grows older, his and his wife's physical functions gradually deteriorate, and his ability to take care of themselves is not as good as before.

At home, although the children are filial, young people are busy with work and cannot take good care of them at all times.

The nursing home is equipped with professional medical staff and nursing staff, who can monitor their physical condition 24 hours a day and provide caring life care.

He also said that there are entertainment activities here, and he can do finger exercises with his old friends every morning, listen to radio dramas and read books in his spare time, and live a fulfilling and comfortable life.

During the conversation, Teacher You Benchang was full of open-minded smiles on both his face and his eyes.

The sentence "Where is a person, where is home, life is constantly exchanging battlefields, this is how I continue to live", full of transparency, where is there a shadow of "desolation"?

Talking about children, Teacher You Benchang was even more proud.

He said that his children are very filial, and his daughter You Sihan has followed her all year round. She not only takes care of her in life, but also inherits her art education work.

Although my son cannot be with him all the time, he often calls to ask about his well-being and goes home to visit him on holidays.

As for staying in a nursing home, it was also a decision after discussion with the children. The children fully supported it, on-site inspections, check-in procedures, etc.

At the end of the interview, Teacher You Benchang hopes that everyone will not misunderstand their children anymore.

But some netizens still do not accept "whitewashing".

"It's now, and I'm still helping my children."

"No matter how unsatisfactory my life is, I will not put my parents in a nursing home."

"It is actually because the children are unfilial."

However, most netizens expressed their understanding of their practices. They believed that the nursing home where Teacher You Benchang lived was not what ordinary people think of it.

Another netizens exonerated their children and said, "He is at his age, his children are in his sixties and seventies, and he has his own sons and grandchildren."

even joked with self-deprecatingly: "The nursing home they live in will be worth our monthly salary in a day."

It is understood that the nursing home where You Benchang and his wife lived in was just opened last year, and the main focus was on high-end services.

Not only has a luxurious decoration and a quiet environment, but it also has a constant temperature, humidity, oxygen and quiet throughout the year. There are smart mattresses in the room, which can monitor the heartbeat of the elderly and other physical conditions.

Even the corners of the wall are equipped with millimeter-wave radars, which can monitor whether the elderly have fallen in real time, and the nurse can arrive within 1 minute.

And there are various interest classes for the elderly to pass the time.

The couple lives in a double room cost at least 26,000 yuan per month.

Just from this "top-fit" care alone, You Benchang's old age was not "desolate", it was clearly a happiness with decent and comfortable.

Performance Review

The reason why this "nutritional home storm" has attracted attention from the entire network is that everyone is reluctant to part with this "Jigong".

I can't bear to leave his persistence in art, and I can't bear to leave his pure original intention.

Although You Benchang entered the entertainment industry as a teenager, the one who really made him famous was the "Living Buddha Jigong" starring at the age of 50.

For the 30 or 40 years of silence, ordinary people have long been looking for another way, but Teacher You Benchang has always insisted on artistic creation.

After the broadcast of the series, the melody of "shoes are broken and hats are broken" became popular all over the country, and You Benchang also became famous overnight.

He could have enjoyed his old age easily and comfortably with the role of "Jigong".

But he, who is nearly 90 years old, resolutely entered the crew of "Flower Flowers".

Now, Teacher You Benchang still has plans to enter short dramas.

On the stage of presenting awards to "Uncle", all the guests from the audience stood up and applauded him.

At a later time, he was unable to receive the award in person due to physical reasons, but when his character video appeared on the big screen, everyone at the audience stood up to pay tribute again.

Perhaps, it is this sincere respect that has made Teacher You Benchang pay more attention.

In addition, there are many misunderstandings about the concept of elderly care in the current public.

In traditional concepts, "raising children to prevent old age" is deeply rooted, and living in a nursing home seems to mean that children have not fulfilled their obligation to support.

However, society has become "aging", and the way of pension in the future will be diversified.

A professional and reliable nursing home is actually a good choice.

Conclusion

For the elderly, a decent old age may be the warmth of being accompanied by someone, the peace of mind of professional care, or the happiness of being able to do what they like freely.

You Benchang chose a nursing home not to be "abandoned", but to be responsible for his later years and to be considerate of his children.

The decision of children to support their parents is not to be "unfilial", but to protect their parents' decency and happiness in a more scientific way.

Some reference materials:

Jimu News|A 92-year-old You Benchang moved into a nursing home, refuting rumors of "children are unfilial"; his daughter revealed that she plans to enter a short drama

Red Net|A child is unfilial in her late years and lives in a nursing home in a miserable state? 92-year-old You Benchang responded that his daughter also revealed new news